the therapist of my sister says asexuality is unhealthy because something is missing or something went wrong because of the lack of sexual attracktion. I tried to explain my sister that there is a different between attraction and arousal. Then she said “yeah, but you experience neither.” And I said that I’m sometimes aroused but that’s it. I do nothing for or against it because I don’t feel to. And that’s the point where her therapist says something is wrong. And now I’m confused and she says she want to go a therapist with me to find the reason why I’m asexual. Because sexuallity is the preservation instinct and it just shouldn’t be not there.
What am I supposed to do? I’m okay to go with her to a therapist, to listen to him/her… but… idk.
Was some of you guys at a therapist? Did he/she say the same or…?
That is a bad therapist. Do not go to that person. The DSM-V (the official manual of the American Psychiatric Association) recognizes asexuality as a sexuality, not something that can be treated or cured, and definitely not an illness. I have no idea where you live, but that’s the truth - asexuality is not wrong. It does not need to be cured. Anyone who says so cannot be trusted.
There isn’t a reason for asexuality. Like all sexualities, it’s a combination of genetic expression and environmental impact. So it may be that there are events that “caused” it, but it’s just as likely that you were born this way and your genetic code calls for it.
Also, I am calling complete bullshit on the preservation instinct shit. Unless that therapist thinks they need to talk to every single person who doesn’t want to have kids, they are picking and choosing reasons to bash asexuality. Fact is, some asexuals do have sex, despite not feeling sexual attraction. Asexuality is about that lack of attraction, not sexual behavior.
You should not talk to this therapist. Ever. It will not be good for you.